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МУЖ ВЫРЕЗАЛ МНЕ ГЛАЗА НОЖОМ. ПРОШЛО 13 ЛЕТ.

by Истории без сахара. Погребижская.

📚 Main topics

The attackOn May 24, 2013, Lida’s ex-husband Andrei attacked her in her apartment, inflicting numerous knife wounds around her eyes. Their seven-year-old son was waiting downstairs, and Andrei fled with him after the attack. 8:45
A history of abuseLida described years of jealousy, infidelity, intimidation, and escalating violence. Andrei had previously attacked her with a gun and scissors, but those incidents did not lead to meaningful consequences. 44:20
The aftermath and loss of sightDoctors operated for hours and tried to save Lida’s vision. She briefly regained limited sight in her left eye, but her retina detached, and she eventually became completely blind. 25:39
Andrei’s sentence and returnAndrei was convicted of the attack and earlier crimes and sentenced to 12 years in prison. After his release, he came to Lida’s home seeking contact with their adult son, who refused to see him. 55:28

✨ Key takeaways

Warning signs and missed chances to interveneLida had sought help after earlier violent incidents, but the lack of effective action allowed the abuse to continue and escalate. 46:00
Why leaving can be difficultLida reflected on how first love, attachment, a shared child, and repeated promises of change made it hard for her to end the relationship permanently. 23:28
Building a life in darknessLida learned to navigate her home through memory and routine, continues to run her business, and relies on her mother and son when going out. 57:47

🧠 Lessons learned

Take violence seriouslyThreats, stalking, coercive control, and earlier assaults are not harmless relationship conflicts; they can signal escalating danger. 48:16
Choose safety over promisesLida hopes her story will help young women recognize abusive relationships and leave rather than return because of declarations of love or promises to change. 13:23
Love life and seek supportLida credits her love of life and the support of family and friends with helping her endure years of struggle. 13:58

🏁 Conclusion/next steps

Continuing treatment and hopeLida still sees doctors and follows treatment aimed at supporting her eyes, while hoping future medical advances may help restore some vision. 9:28
A new purposeShe wants to keep developing her business and hopes to study psychology, while encouraging others to value their lives and leave abusive relationships. 8:55

истории без сахара

Transcript excerpt

0:01 This is Lida Terentyeva. She lives in Volgograd. She runs her own business, an interior designer. A young, confident businesswoman. This is the Lida the whole country got to know on a national talk show. And this is what her ex-husband, Andrei, did to her. He cut her eyes with a knife, inflicting about 20 wounds. He didn't want her to see the world without him. Everyone who heard this story

0:33 wished for her to preserve her sight and for Andrei to be punished. Exactly 13 years have passed since then . Lida agreed to tell us her story. It happened on May 24, 2013. Lida was getting her son, Kirill, ready for school. The boy is 7 years old and in first grade. His father, Andrei, came to pick him up. He didn't come up to the apartment. He and Lida had been living separately for almost

1:09 5 years. And after certain events, Lida is afraid to be alone with her ex. The intercom rings. I say, "Well, Kirill went downstairs, like with a backpack. That's it, he's calling again." He says, "Open the door for me, I need to give you your things." And I'm home alone. I tried not to open the door for him at all, when I was still more or less fine with the kid. I open the door for him, he holds out his hand to me and takes my things. It was my mistake that I didn't close the door first. I turn around, put my things in the hallway, turn around, and at that moment he's already closing the door with the nightlight. That

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